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Northern New England isn't yet the hotbed of gay culture that, say, Provincetown, Massachusetts, has become. But plenty of gays and lesbians live and travel here, and find these three states accepting of their culture. (Urban areas are a lot more welcoming than small or rural ones.)

Vermont has traditionally been the most open-minded of the three states; it has been a major destination for gay and lesbians who want to marry here since state law acknowledged civil unions in 2000. A local backlash (marked by TAKE BACK VERMONT signs) has arisen in response to passage of the law, but these opponents have so far failed to get the law repealed.

For information on Vermont civil unions, consult the state-run website www.sec.state.vt.us/otherprg/civilunions/civilunions.html .

A number of hotels and inns in the region, ranging from small B&Bs to the larger resorts, welcome gay and lesbian travelers and their friends for civil unions, and a growing number of these inns are actually owned by gay or lesbian couples. Check online ads and advertisements in gay and lesbian community newspapers and magazines for more information.

Ogunquit, on the southern Maine coast, is a hugely popular destination among gay travelers and features a lively beach and bar scene in the summer. In winter, it's still active but mellower. One good place to learn more is from the website www.gayogunquit.com , with information on gay-owned inns, restaurants, and nightclubs in the town.

For a more detailed directory of gay-oriented enterprises in New England, including some coverage of northern New England, track down the Pink Pages, published by KP Media (tel. 617/423-1515; www.pinkweb.com), which also maintains a good website.

There are also plenty of nationwide resources to help plan gay travel. The International Gay and Lesbian Travel Association (IGLTA) (tel. 800/448-8550 or 954/776-2626; www.iglta.org) is the trade association for the gay and lesbian travel industry, and offers an online directory of gay- and lesbian-friendly travel businesses and tour operators.

Many agencies offer tours and travel itineraries specifically for gay and lesbian travelers. Above and Beyond Tours (tel. 800/397-2681; www.abovebeyondtours.com) are Australian gay-tour specialists. San Francisco-based Now, Voyager (tel. 800/255-6951; www.nowvoyager.com) offers worldwide trips and cruises; and Olivia (tel. 800/631-6277; www.olivia.com) offers lesbian cruises and resort vacations.

Gay.com Travel (tel. 800/929-2268 or 415/644-8044; www.gay.com/travel or www.outandabout.com) is an excellent online successor to the popular Out & About print magazine. It provides regularly updated information about gay-owned, gay-oriented, and gay-friendly lodging, dining, sightseeing, nightlife, and shopping establishments in every important destination worldwide. British travelers should click on the "Travel" link at www.uk.gay.com for advice and gay-friendly trip ideas.

The Canadian website GayTraveler (gaytraveler.ca) offers ideas and advice for gay travel all over the world.

The following travel guides are available at many bookstores, or you can order them from any online bookseller: Spartacus International Gay Guide, 35th Edition (Bruno Gmunder Verlag; www.spartacusworld.com/gayguide) and Odysseus: The International Gay Travel Planner, 17th Edition (the Damron guides; www.damron.com), offer separate, annual books for gay men and lesbians.

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Nestled under a canopy of trees, surrounded by ferns the Brook Cottage is the most magical, private & romantic setting…

The 360-degree views are simply amazing and the cool cross-breezes are wonderful…

You'll think you're in your own secluded world when you're lulled to sleep by the sound of the passing brook and crickets…

A private sitting area is steps from the Brook Cottage overlooking the babbling brook and is a great secluded getaway…

The Brook Cottage is a short two-minute walk to the Main House…

The Brook Cottage is built with aromatic cedar and has a queen-size bed. It's an experience you won't easily forget…

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Tucked under a canopy of pines and oaks and surrounded by ferns, the Brook Cottage is full of windows with a peaceful view out of every one!

Nestled in the trees down by the brook that feeds the swimming pond, the Brook Cottage has perhaps the most magical setting at Frog Meadow. Tucked under a canopy of pines and oaks and surrounded by ferns, the Brook Cottage is full of windows with a peaceful view out of every one!

The Brook Cottage has a queen bed and you’ll be lulled to sleep by the sound of gently running water and crickets. Although the Brook Cottage is heated and air conditioned, there is no plumbing…when nature calls use a nearby tree or come to the Main House, a short two-minute walk away. There you’ll have full access to the Main House common areas as well as a full bath and shower for your use.

Your stay at Frog Meadow comes complete with a full, made-to-order country breakfast prepared daily. Full access to the gym ,  wood-fired hot tub ,  swimming pond ,  recreation trail network  and surrounding  gardens, orchard and grounds  are included in the room rate for lodging guests at Frog Meadow.

All bed linens at Frog Meadow are high thread count Egyptian cotton. To ensure a good night’s sleep, the Brook Cottage is furnished with a comfy pillow-top mattress.

For your convenience there is a campus-wide Mesh Wi-Fi network that provides high-speed internet access throughout the property including the Main House, Carriage House, the Brook Cottage, the Honey Bee Cottage, the gardens, orchard, meadow and the swimming pond areas at Frog Meadow. The download speed is approximately 200 mbps.

Gay-friendly southern Vermont will make you feel welcome and has many  unique attractions & activities  plus plenty of  great restaurants  to explore and enjoy!

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Made INN Vermont

Come for the design. Stay for the experience.

An Urban-Chic Boutique Bed and Breakfast

Named 2014 "Top Ten Romantic Inn" by I Love Inns and 2017 “Editors Choice” for Air-Canada enRoute Magazine, Made INN Vermont has a stunning and chic boutique bed and breakfast with quality and artistry in design. Nestled in Burlington’s Historic Hill district, they have sophisticated, eclectic decor combined with state-of-the-art amenities for an "old meets new" vibe. Their over-the-top service, upscale rooms, and exquisite location are just three of the many reasons to stay with them. 

Made INN Vermont has been uniquely designed for adults to relax, renew and recharge, and a home base to explore all that Vermont has to offer. Their common spaces offer something for everyone and their private garden patio allows for fresh air and romantic stargazing, with the added bonus of outdoor drink service. Sit back and relax in their 4th-floor Cupola, offering stunning views of downtown Burlington, the sparkling waters of Lake Champlain, and the Adirondack Mountains.

Rooms & Suites

Made INN Vermont is the premier eco-chic boutique hotel in Burlington, VT. A creatively restored Victorian, the hotel has a trendy and stylish interior with an intimate and cozy atmosphere. Their four distinctive guest rooms with private bathrooms offer relaxation and comfort, along with their superior attention to every detail. 

Find your perfect room in this top historic bed and breakfast and enjoy all Burlington has to offer. Check out their specials and packages for your very "special" romantic getaway and make it a "Burlington stay" to remember! Check-in is from 4 to 6.

Eat & Drink

Welcome to their world: fresh, locally sourced, Vermont ingredients with an international flair. They feature locally grown, natural, organic produce and baked goods. 

Breakfast is served every morning from 9-10 a.m. Their café is at your pleasure 24/7—coffee, tea, beverages, candy assortment, fruit, pastries, and daily whims.

Area & Activities

Explore the natural beauty of Burlington—enjoy the fresh air, take a stroll, and take in the sights of the great little state. Their neighborhoods are historic, a path runs along the waterfront for miles and if you're truly feeling adventurous you can do it all in the buff. 

Burlington has incredible music and arts scene, ranging from basement jam bands to Dick Dale-inspired trios, and orchestras to street performers. Made INN Vermont B&B is a short walk to the Church Street Marketplace, Lake Champlain Waterfront, ECHO Aquarium & Science Center, Flynn Center for the Performing Arts, premier restaurants, and music venues. 

Pet-friendly

Made INN Vermont allows a maximum of two dogs per room for a fee of $25 per dog. Every dog’s “3 B’s”: They are the only inn in Burlington that welcomes your best friend with bowls, biscuits & bedding.

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• Off-Street Parking (limited), Free On-Street Parking
• Keyless Entry
• Complimentary Wifi throughout the INN
• Gourmet Breakfast Cooked to Order Daily
• Garden Patio for Eating and Relaxing, with a Year-Round Hot-Tub
• 24/7 Coffee and Tea Bar, with Gourmet Beverage options
• Local Vermont Brews: Heady Topper and Switchback 
• Views of Downtown Burlington, Lake Champlain, and the Adirondacks
• Gorgeously Restored Historic Woodwork 
• Vintage Furniture, Games, & Books
• Gallery Quality Contemporary Art
• Coupons to Vermont Venues
• Concierge Service
• New York Times & Local Newspapers
• Doting Staff
• Extraordinary Intimate Petite Hotel Privacy
• Outdoor Drink Service
• Outdoor Smoking and Sunbathing Area
• Romance Packages
• Early or Late Breakfast (upon request)
• Close to Everything, yet Located in Coveted Serene Historic Hill Section
• Extensive Art Book Library, Vinyl Collection, & DVD library

Room Amenities

• Flat Screen TVs with Premium Cable and DVD Players
• Individually Controlled AC/heating
• Mini-fridge with Snack Bar
• Down Comforters and Down Alternative Pillows (Hypoallergenic upon request)
• Made INN Vermont Platform Beds and Sleeping Systems: Gel Topped Mattresses or King Sized TempurPedic
• Egyptian Cotton Towels
• Luxurious Robes and Slippers
• Vinyl Collections with Record Player
• Antique and Mood Lighting
• Large Walk-in Shower or Claw Foot Tub
• Floor to Ceiling Windows
• Soaring Victorian Ceilings
• Breakfast In Premium Rooms (upon request)
• Fresh Flowers and Good Luck Bamboo Plants

Made Inn Vermont is a funky, chic, enjoyable boutique experience; not to be missed. The Inn’s historic and authentic exterior is what you might expect to find in gay-friendly Burlington, Vermont.  Once inside, however, you quickly realize you are no longer in Kansas!

Eclectic design and attention to detail are obvious. A conversation with the proprietor Linda was reminiscent of a scene from a Broadway show. That alone is worth the very reasonable price of admission.

Close to everything, we walked to Church Street which is replete with every type of bar and restaurant you can imagine. 

We met other guests who had also learned about MIV on gaytravel.com. We felt right at home as there is no shortage of thoughtful and creative amenities.  Our room was kitschy and comfortable – with a record player juxtaposed with modern appointments.  The gourmet Vermont breakfasts were Fab-U- Lous.

" The Best B&B by far! " "...turned out to be everything we had hoped for and a whole lot more. Linda and her staff made us feel that we were part of their home...We have stayed at other B&B's in the US and in Europe. . . we are a gay couple, and for any gay couple looking for a B&B that will make them feel not only comfortable but valued guests Made Inn Vermont is the place to stay in Burlington."

--- Gary S.

" Rated #1 for Good Reason " "This beautiful, quirky, clean, comfortable, warm, friendly, and welcoming B&B was a great place for my husband and me to have a good time... Let's just say it sets the stage for a good time! The cook is animated and made a delicious meal (the New Yorker-inspired French toast lifted my husband to new heights of culinary pleasure)..."

--- Eric L.

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Stowe in the Running for 4 Gay Travel Awards

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Stowe, Vermont strives to be an inclusive and welcoming destination for all. This is why we are excited and honored to be nominated for the 2022 Gay Travel Awards in four categories. These nominees are recognized for their “spirit of inclusiveness and hospitality excellence” and “inspire other inclusive companies and brands to improve their amenities and customer service levels.” Read on to learn about the Stowe nominees and vote for Stowe ! Make your voice heard and vote once per day until January 9, 2023.

Stowe, Vermont for Favorite LGBTQ+ Friendly Mountain Destination

Known as a quintessential mountain town year-round, Stowe, Vermont offers a multitude of activities and events along with robust culture, including art exhibitions and performances. Explore the vast outdoors no matter what the season by bike, foot, snowshoe, horse, snowmobile, or cross-country skis. As GayTravel explains, “the seasons in Stowe are pure magic, thanks to a spellbinding pair of attractions no other Eastern destination can match: a charming village and majestic Mount Mansfield.”

Winter Rendezvous for Favorite Gay Ski Week

2023 will mark the 40th annual Winter Rendezvous in Stowe, an LGBTQ+ pride celebration that attracts hundreds of skiers, riders, and winter enthusiasts for five days of wintry bliss. With a theme of Ski Party Play, participants enjoy skiing and snowboarding at Stowe Mountain Resort , offering 116 trails and 39 miles of terrain between Mount Mansfield, Vermont’s highest peak, and Spruce Peak. As well, Trapp Family Lodge , the official Nordic Center of Winter Rendezvous, offers world class cross-country skiing and snowshoeing. Other outdoor activities during Winter Rendezvous include ice skating, horse drawn sleigh rides, snowmobiles, dog sledding, hot tubs, and bonfires.

Brass Lantern Inn for Favorite LGBTQ+ Friendly Inn

This charming bed and breakfast near Stowe Village has provided cozy, unique lodging for guests since 1988. Now a gay-owned property, the Brass Lantern Inn focuses on the full guest experience by offering quality lodging and “a charming bed and breakfast surrounded by the ambiance of the expansive Vermont countryside.” Guests can enjoy their morning coffee with views of Mount Mansfield and sit by the fireplace in the recently renovated living room with a good book or game of scrabble. To top it off, the inn offers two pet-friendly rooms and a built-in outdoor fenced area for dogs so guests can rest assured their pets will remain safe and in sight.

The Lodge at Spruce Peak for Favorite LGBTQ+ Friendly Lodge/Ranch

As Vermont’s only slopeside luxury resort, The Lodge at Spruce Peak is nestled at the base of Mount Mansfield. Guests have a range of accommodations to choose from classic resort guest rooms to expansive four-bedroom penthouse suites. For dining options you don’t have to go far for The Lodge at Spruce Peak offers guests two onsite locations. The Tipsy Trout is a seafood favorite featuring a raw bar and Alpine Hall serves up farm-to-table Vermont fare. For those looking for things to do, the Spruce Peak Village frequently hosts vibrant events like the much loved Annual New Year’s Eve Celebration where guests can enjoy ice dancing performances, specialty food, family fun, live music, fireworks, and more.

Stowe is grateful to be in the running for four Gay Travel Awards categories. Voting ends December 26, 2022 and remember you can vote once per day !

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Moving To Gay Vermont? Thing To Know Before Relocating Here As An LGBT Person.

Posted on Last updated: December 1, 2023

Categories Gay Real Estate , Moving To LGBT USA

Louise Lopez expertly guides queer individuals to vibrant, inclusive U.S. and North American neighborhoods with 15+ years of dedicated experience, ensuring they find not just a home, but a community where their authenticity is celebrated and protected.

One of the most common thoughts you might have before relocating anywhere is how accepting the locals are towards the LGBTQ+ lifestyle. It is a very valid concern and something that sadly still needs to be considered in this day and age.

To help queer folks who are considering moving to Gay Vermont, we have put together this guide from experts on the ground, considering the pros and cons of life here, discussing LGBT rights in Vermont and whether Vermont embraces our community.

We also take a look at the most gay-friendly cities in Vermont and LGBT community organizations in Vermont that you should be aware of!

Vermont is a small and welcoming state with many cities and regions famed for their LGBTQ+-friendly atmospheres.

Burlington, Montpelier, and Stowe are especially known for their welcoming and inclusive communities, with various events, activities, and neighborhoods specifically geared toward the LGBTQ+ community. However, you would be hard-pressed to find an unwelcoming place in this gayest of states, where 5.3% of residents identify themselves as lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBTQ+) – beating out Massachusetts (4.9%), California (4.9%), Oregon (4.9%) and Nevada (4.8%)!

Despite this, when searching for the perfect new LGBT neighborhood in Vermont, it is still important to consider factors such as the city’s overall reputation for inclusivity, the presence of LGBTQ+-friendly businesses and events, and the proximity to resources and support for the LGBTQ+ community.

To reduce the stress of your relocation, we recommend engaging a gay realtor in Vermont early in the process to help you find your new perfect home there. They will have up-to-the-minute information on the best cities and areas for LGBT people and be able to match your needs to a neighborhood most suited to you.

You can just start with a no-obligation conversation, and if you decide to continue with your move to Vermont – they will not only have your best interests at heart but also ensure you are treated with dignity and respect throughout the entire process.

In this article we will cover...

Highlights Of Moving To Gay Vermont

Lgbtq+ rights in the usa, does vermont embrace the lgbtq community , is vermont an expensive city to live in , lgbtq+ community organizations in vermont, finding gay realtors in vermont.

It’s hard not to get enthusiastic about the unique and tempting proposition that moving to Vermont presents – especially once you get chatting with residents and long-time locals in the know about all their state’s hidden gems and best-kept secrets. After all, this is why many chose to live here. 

Once you move here, you should quickly befriend locals, let them ‘spill the tea’ and then spend your free time discovering the best sights, food, nature and culture Vermont has to offer. On top of this, thanks to an offbeat yet deeply engaged LGBT community – which congregates at a few fabulous queer hot spots – securing a relocation to Vermont should allow you to meet local queer people with similar interests. 

We are certain locals will have many more to add, but to get you excited, here are just a few highlights to look forward to as you become Vermont’s newest denizen.

LGBT Events

The Burlington Pride Parade and Festival, Montpelier Pride Festival, and Stowe Pride Festival are all annual events in Vermont that celebrate LGBTQ+ pride and community. The Burlington Pride Parade and Festival takes place in June and features a parade with floats, costumes, and performances, followed by a festival with live music, food vendors, and other activities.

The Montpelier Pride Festival occurs in August and includes live music, food vendors, and other activities. The Stowe Pride Festival, held in October, features a variety of events and activities, including live music and food vendors. These festivals are significant events in their respective cities and provide opportunities for LGBTQ+ individuals to connect and celebrate their pride and diversity.

Vibrant Nightlife

In addition to hosting major pride events, Burlington, Montpelier, and Stowe cities also have a range of clubs, bars, and other venues catering to the LGBTQ+ community. These places offer lively nightlife and opportunities for the community to come together and socialize. The cities also have a variety of events and activities specifically geared toward the LGBTQ+ community, such as social groups and meet-ups.

Additionally, these cities have several LGBTQ+-owned businesses, which can be an excellent way for LGBTQ+ individuals to support the community and contribute to the local economy. These businesses may include restaurants, retail stores, and other types of businesses and contribute to the welcoming and inclusive atmosphere of the cities.

The laws governing lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people have altered considerably over time in the United States and vary from state to state. In many ways, LGBT rights are some of the best in the world – but the devil is in the detail, and some places are much more hostile to queer life than others.

While same-sex marriage has been legal in every state since the landmark Obergefell v. Hodges ruling on June 26, 2015 (before Obergefell v. Hodges, same-sex marriage was legal in 36 states and Washington, D.C. ), LGBT people are still treated differently in different states – both societally and as inequality under the law.

Over half of all states still allow discrimination on the grounds of sexual orientation and gender identity/expression, while counties and cities within states often have distinct laws as well. While some states permit adoption by all couples, others forbid it for all unmarried couples.

This is all to say what most of us already know is that LGBT rights and equality differ greatly across the USA, and the specifics of family, marriage and anti-discrimination laws are different in every state.

Thus, while it is comforting to know that you can choose to marry whoever you love across the USA (and have it recognized as such) and are protected against hate crimes based on sexual orientation or gender identity (which can be punished under Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act of 2009), there are still many questions you will likely have about moving to Vermont and what you can expect of LGBT life there.

Vermont has a strong track record in supporting and protecting the rights of its LGBTQ+ citizens. The state was the nation’s first to recognize civil unions between same-sex couples legally. It was also the first state to legally recognize same-sex marriage through legislation rather than a court ruling.

Vermont has nondiscrimination laws protecting LGBTQ+ individuals from discrimination in employment, housing, and public accommodations. It has several laws and policies that support and protect the rights of the LGBTQ+ community.

Despite these strengths, Vermont is not immune to the challenges and discrimination faced by the LGBTQ+ community. The state has a higher rate of hate crimes against LGBTQ+ individuals compared to the national average, and there are still ongoing efforts to protect and defend the rights of the LGBTQ+ community in Vermont.

However, there are several organizations and resources available to the LGBTQ+ community in Vermont that work to advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and support the community, including the Vermont Freedom to Marry Task Force, Outright Vermont, and the Vermont Pride Center.

Additionally, Vermont has several initiatives and programs that support the LGBTQ+ community, such as the Vermont Safe Schools and Communities Project, which provides resources and support for creating safe and inclusive environments for LGBTQ+ students in schools.

The state also has several organizations and resources specifically for LGBTQ+ youth, such as Outright Vermont and the Vermont Youth Services Project, which provide support and resources for LGBTQ+ youth in the state.

In general, Vermont has a reputation as a welcoming and inclusive state for the LGBTQ+ community. It has a long history of supporting LGBTQ+ rights and has many laws and policies in place to protect the rights of LGBTQ+ individuals.

While there are still challenges and instances of discrimination faced by the LGBTQ+ community in Vermont, the state has a strong network of organizations and resources available to support and empower the LGBTQ+ community.

Vermont’s cost of living varies depending on the city you live in. However, the state’s overall cost of living is 16.9% greater than the country’s average. Below are some of the expenses you’ll incur when living in Vermont:

Housing costs in Vermont are relatively low. Accommodation in the state is not only less expensive than its more pricey east coast neighbors but is also less than the national average. In general, housing here costs 11.5% less than the U.S. average. The state’s median home value is $254,200. 

Food And Groceries

Your grocery spending will be roughly 7% higher than the country’s average. A single adult could spend approximately $3,800 per year on meals. Your grocery budget will increase to an estimated $11,000 yearly for a household of four.

Utility Costs

Expect your monthly utility payment to cost around 17% more than the rest of the country. Your utility cost is roughly $165 per month for a 915-square-foot flat. 

Transportation

Like other living expenses in the state, transportation is more expensive than the national average. For instance, transport costs in Burlington are 19.3 percent higher than the national average. Vermont only has public transit in some municipalities. However, larger cities and towns, like Montpelier and Rutland, have bus services. 

Wherever you live, it is essential that you support LGBT organizations in any way you can use so that they can keep reaching out to and assisting other, more vulnerable members of the community. After all, we are stronger when we work together, and each of us will likely have a time in our lives when we require a little extra support.

Thankfully, Vermont has a supportive and diverse LGBTQ community, which has helped the state become more gay-friendly in recent years.

As a result, there are a variety of LGBT resources available to community members, their allies, friends, and families – and you ought to feel free to utilize them or consider giving your support as needed to keep your new home state moving forwards! They are also great places to meet new people and find your queer chosen family in Gay Vermont.

Vermont Freedom to Marry Task Force

The Vermont Freedom to Marry Task Force was a grassroots organization that worked to advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and marriage equality in the state of Vermont. It was active from 2009-2013 when Vermont legalized same-sex marriage.

Outright Vermont

Outright Vermont is a nonprofit organization that supports and empowers LGBTQ+ youth in Vermont. It was founded in 1991 and offered services and support to LGBTQ+ young people, including counseling, education, and advocacy. Outright Vermont also hosts events and programs, such as workshops and social gatherings, to build community and support among LGBTQ+ youth in the state.

The Vermont Pride Center

The Vermont Pride Center is a community center that serves the LGBTQ+ community in Vermont. It offers a variety of resources and programming, including social events, support groups, and health and wellness resources.

The center also works to advocate for LGBTQ+ rights and to create a more inclusive and welcoming community for LGBTQ+ individuals in Vermont. The Vermont Pride Center was founded in 1984 and is headquartered in Burlington.

Gender Mosaic

Gender Mosaic is a support and social group for transgender and non-binary individuals in Vermont. The organization offers support and resources, including social events, support groups, and education and advocacy efforts. Gender Mosaic was founded in 1992 and is based in Burlington.

Rainbow Union

The Rainbow Union is a student-led organization at the University of Vermont that works to support and empower the LGBTQ+ community on campus. The organization hosts events and programming, including social events and educational workshops, and works to create a more inclusive environment for LGBTQ+ students at the university. The Rainbow Union was founded in the 1990s and is active on the University of Vermont campus.

Most Gay-Friendly Cities In Vermont

In Vermont, there are many wonderful areas to live in, but when relocating to LGBTQ Vermont, you should be cognizant that there are a few cities and gaybourhoods that are nearer to the queer hubs of life. Knowing them will allow you to pull your U-Haul up to your new house in a gay-friendly neighborhood or town that is best suited to your needs.

If you’re a lesbian , gay , bisexual ,  transgender , or otherwise queer person seeking a welcoming neighborhood with facilities you’ll cherish, start with these top gay and gay-friendly Vermont cities to discover your perfect new home, each with its distinct personality.

Give yourself enough time to acquaint yourself with Vermont’s diverse personalities, and remember that there is no one perfect answer when it comes to the most gay-friendly places in Vermont…and just because it does not make our list doesn’t necessarily make it a bad option.

We recommend  speaking to a local LGBT real estate agent  for a more detailed understanding of the best options today. Now, let’s take a look at where these fabulously gay-friendly cities in Vermont are and why you might want to consider them!

Burlington , the largest city in Vermont, is known for its vibrant and diverse LGBTQ+ community. The city is home to the Burlington Pride Parade and Festival, an annual event celebrating the LGBTQ+ community in Burlington. The festival features a parade, live music, food and drinks, and a variety of other activities and events.

Burlington also has several LGBTQ+-owned businesses, such as nightclubs, restaurants, and retail stores, that cater to the LGBTQ+ community. Some popular LGBTQ+ nightclubs in Burlington include Club Metronome and Red Square. In addition to its LGBTQ+ nightlife, Burlington also has many events and activities specifically geared toward the LGBTQ+ community.

The city is home to the Vermont Gay Men’s Chorus and the Vermont Women’s Chorus, both LGBTQ+ community choruses that offer a range of performances throughout the year. Burlington also has many LGBTQ+-themed events, such as the Vermont LGBTQ+ Film Festival and the Vermont Queer Comedy Festival. In terms of queer getaways, Burlington has several LGBTQ+-friendly hotels and resorts.

The Hotel Vermont is a popular choice among LGBTQ+ travelers, offering a range of amenities such as an on-site restaurant and a fitness center. The Inn at the Round Barn Farm is another LGBTQ+-friendly option in Burlington, offering a range of accommodations in a beautiful rural setting. Both of these hotels are located conveniently in the city, allowing guests to explore all that Burlington has to offer easily.

Burlington is an excellent destination for LGBTQ+ individuals looking to experience the charm and culture of Vermont. The city is home to a couple of cultural attractions, such as the Shelburne Museum and the Flynn Center for the Performing Arts. Burlington is also known for its food scene, with various restaurants, cafes, and food trucks offering multiple dining options.

The city is located on the shores of Lake Champlain, offering a range of water-based activities such as boating and fishing. Overall, Burlington is a vibrant and welcoming city perfect for LGBTQ+ individuals looking to experience all Vermont offers.

Montpelier, the capital of Vermont, is known for its welcoming and inclusive atmosphere. The city is home to the Montpelier Pride Festival, an annual event celebrating the LGBTQ+ community in Montpelier. The festival features a variety of activities and events, including live music, food and drinks, and a parade.

Montpelier also has several LGBTQ+-owned businesses, such as bars, restaurants, and retail stores, that cater to the LGBTQ+ community. Some popular LGBTQ+ nightclubs in Montpelier include The Skinny Pancake and Charlie-O’s World Famous. In addition to its LGBTQ+ nightlife, Montpelier has several events and activities specifically geared toward the LGBTQ+ community.

The city is home to the Vermont Gay Men’s Chorus and the Vermont Women’s Chorus, both LGBTQ+ community choruses that offer a range of performances throughout the year. Montpelier also has some LGBTQ+-themed events, such as the Vermont LGBTQ+ Film Festival and the Vermont Queer Comedy Festival.

In terms of queer getaways, Montpelier has several LGBTQ+-friendly hotels and resorts, which could be a good option to try before you buy (into living here). The Capitol Plaza Hotel is a popular choice among LGBTQ+ travelers, offering a range of amenities like an indoor pool and a fitness center. The Topnotch Resort and Spa is another LGBTQ+-friendly option in Montpelier, offering luxurious accommodations and a range of spa services.

Both of these hotels are located conveniently in the city, allowing guests to explore all Montpelier easily has to offer. Montpelier is an excellent destination for LGBTQ+ individuals who want to experience the charm of Vermont. Stunning natural landscapes, including mountains, forests, and rolling hills, surround the city.

Outdoor enthusiasts can enjoy a range of activities in the area, such as hiking, biking, and skiing. Montpelier is also home to several cultural attractions, such as the Vermont History Museum and the Vermont State House. The city has some restaurants, cafes, and shops, offering a range of dining and shopping options. Montpelier is a welcoming and inclusive city perfect for LGBTQ+ individuals looking to experience all that Vermont has to offer.

Stowe, located in the mountains of Vermont, is known for its stunning natural beauty and outdoor recreation opportunities. The city is home to the Stowe Pride Festival, an annual event celebrating the LGBTQ+ community in Stowe. The festival features a variety of activities and events, including live music, food and drinks, and a parade.

Stowe also has many LGBTQ+-owned businesses, such as bars, restaurants, and retail stores, that cater to the LGBTQ+ community. Some popular LGBTQ+ nightclubs in Stowe include The Rusty Nail and The Matterhorn. In addition to its LGBTQ+ nightlife, Stowe has many events and activities specifically geared toward the LGBTQ+ community.

The city is home to the Vermont Gay Men’s Chorus and the Vermont Women’s Chorus, both LGBTQ+ community choruses that offer a range of performances throughout the year. Stowe also has several LGBTQ+-themed events, such as the Vermont LGBTQ+ Film Festival and the Vermont Queer Comedy Festival.

In terms of queer getaways, Stowe has many LGBTQ+-friendly hotels and resorts. The Stoweflake Mountain Resort and Spa is a popular choice among LGBTQ+ travelers, offering a range of amenities such as an on-site spa and a fitness center. The Stowe Mountain Lodge is another LGBTQ+-friendly option in Stowe, offering luxurious accommodations and a range of outdoor recreational activities. 

Both hotels are located conveniently in the city, allowing guests to explore all Stowe has to offer.

Stowe is an excellent destination for LGBTQ+ individuals looking to experience Vermont’s beauty and outdoor recreation opportunities. Stunning natural landscapes, including mountains, forests, and rolling hills, surround the city. Outdoor enthusiasts can enjoy a range of activities in the area, such as hiking, biking, and skiing.

Stowe is also home to many cultural attractions, such as the Vermont Ski and Snowboard Museum and the Stowe History Museum. The city has many restaurants, cafes, and shops, offering a range of dining and shopping options. Overall, Stowe is a welcoming and inclusive city perfect for LGBTQ+ individuals looking to experience all Vermont offers.

Almost smack-bang in the center of Vermont, Woodstock is often referred to as the USA’s prettiest city – and it’s easy to agree! A shire town with a population of only just over 3,000, Woodstock is filled to the brim with historic buildings surrounding the central square, known as the Green, including the opulent 1880s pink sandstone Norman Williams Public Library.

Just north across a covered bridge, Billings Farm & Museum is a functioning dairy farm, with an 1890 farmhouse and exhibits re-creating 19th-century farm life and trails lace Marsh-Billings-Rockefeller National Historical Park, which contains an 1800s Queen Anne–style mansion. There is plenty of pride flags flying, and the Mon Vert Cafe is a gay-owned and gay-popular hang-out for modern breakfast and lunch fare with organic ingredients & espresso drinks.

When looking for the ideal realtor, why would you consider someone’s sexuality? This may seem strange at first, but there are several reasons why contacting a gay realtor in Vermont is a great way to find your dream house.

After all, when it relates to one of life’s most significant transactions, it’s not unreasonable to expect fair, equal, and honest representation from someone who understands the queer community’s particular needs and wishes.

Furthermore, unfortunately, many people (up to a third of Americans) believe that our community does not deserve protection and dignity in housing, adoption, employment, and other areas of life.

So it’s no surprise that LGBT people who use mainstream realtors often describe feelings of discomfort, unnecessary trouble, unenthusiastic representation, or even antagonism or outright contempt.

Everyone deserves a pleasant, stress-free home buying or selling experience while being adequately represented, and this is why we feel you should hire a gay realtor to assist you in finding your future home.

LGBTQ Friendly Lodging in New England

New England leads the country in welcoming and accommodating LGBTQ partners and their families and kids. LGBTQ singles and couples enjoy lodgings in city high-rise hotels near great dining, culture, and shopping, as well as inns and B&Bs for a small-town or countryside getaway. Family-friendly lodging is located on the beach fronts and lake fronts, near amusement parks and outdoor adventures in all of New England. Accommodations that open their arms to LGBTQ guests and clans are found in Connecticut , Maine , Massachusetts , New Hampshire , Rhode Island , and Vermont .

LGBTQ-Friendly Places To Stay For Your Next New England Visit

Opting for an LGBTQ-friendly hotel in New England ensures a warm and inclusive experience where you can be authentic without fear or judgment. Basin Harbor Resort & Boat Club prioritizes diversity and acceptance and offers a sense of community and belonging. You'll find staff who are knowledgeable about local LGBTQ resources and events, making it easier to explore the vibrant LGBTQ scene in New England. The Pointe Hotel at Castle Hill Resort sometimes hosts LGBTQ-themed events, creating opportunities to connect with like-minded individuals and forge meaningful friendships. By choosing an LGBTQ-friendly hotel, you're not just selecting a place to stay; you're selecting a safe and affirming space that celebrates diversity and offers an opportunity to celebrate your identity openly, adding an extra layer of comfort and enjoyment to your New England getaway.

Castle Hill Resort

Junction of Routes 103 and 131 Proctorsville, VT, 05149 Phone: 802-226-7361 Toll-Free: 888-764-6836

Historic, award-winning resort offers elegance, inviting ambiance and variety of activities

Publick House Historic Inn On the Common

277 Main Street - Route 131 Sturbridge, MA, 01566 Phone: 508-347-3313 Toll-Free: 800-782-5425

Historic inn, which opened its doors in 1771, creates warm, home-away-from-home vibe

Ocean Edge Resort & Golf Club

2907 Main Street (Route 6A) Brewster, MA, 02631 Phone: 508-896-9000 Toll-Free: 800-343-6074

It’s paradise: Staying at bayside resort is the ultimate in luxurious relaxation

The Pointe Hotel at Castle Hill Resort

Resort hotel in the Green Mountains a great place to recharge, unwind after your active days

15 Beacon Street Boston, MA, 02108 Phone: 617-670-1500 Toll-Free: 877-982-3226

Welcoming atmosphere, luxurious accommodations, great location make this boutique hotel a must

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Woodstock, Vermont to host first LGBTQ+ Pride celebration

W oodstock is getting an early jump on Pride Month, hosting its first-ever Pride of Woodstock event starting Thursday, May 30. The well-known tourist destination's inaugural celebration of the LGBTQ+ community runs through the afternoon of Sunday, June 2.

"I think we have something for everyone," Pride of Woodstock co-chair Gabe DeLeon said. "So that's why it should be part of your weekend."

The 2024 lineup of activities includes movies, dance parties, a drag brunch at the Woodstock Inn and Resort, a comedy show at the Grange Theater and more. In an interview with NBC5 News, organizers said it was really important to them to not try to mimic Pride celebrations in big cities. Rather, they said they wanted Pride of Woodstock to have a truly Vermont feel. The event will spotlight local performers and will have an arts and crafts fair on the village green Saturday featuring local artisans.

"This is not just any Pride; this is Woodstock Pride," Seton McIlroy, a Woodstock Village Trustee and Pride of Woodstock co-chair, said. "It's very specifically Vermont Pride."

McIlroy emphasized while Woodstock has long been known as a destination for visitors from around the world, Pride of Woodstock wants to create spaces for people from nearby communities to attend and celebrate. The co-chairs pointed to events like an open mic hosted by the Woodstock High School Queer/Straight Alliance and performances by drag queens from Rutland as other examples of the programming's focus on local communities.

"We want to show people that we love everyone, of course, and we are excited about Pride and the LGBTQ community," McIlroy said. "But we're also proud of Woodstock. And so we want to show who we are and just what a special community we are."

A full schedule of events is available on the event's website. DeLeon and McIlroy said they expect Woodstock Pride to become an annual celebration.

Woodstock is not alone. St. Albans is also hosting its first-ever Pride celebration in 2024, from June 7 to June 9.

Across Vermont, the number of communities hosting Pride Month events has been growing in recent years. The list now includes Windsor, Vergennes, Bellows Falls, Newport, Springfield, and others.

Rep. Becca Balint, the first openly gay person to represent Vermont in Congress, said in an interview with NBC5 news it is a reflection of how most Americans know and care about relatives, friends, neighbors, or coworkers who are members of the LGBTQ+ community.

"Gay people, trans people — we're everywhere," Balint, a Democrat, said. "I think there is a sense in these smaller communities that it's not like we just got here. We've been here. We've been your friends and neighbors. And we're just going to be a little bit more open about who we are, so that we can come together as a community and not have this division. I think visibility absolutely matters."

The Pride Center of Vermont has a calendar of events on its website. The Instagram account @gayvermont also provides information on LGBTQ+ events taking place around the state.

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Winter in Vermont

Winter transforms Vermont’s landscape into a cozy haven where mountains wear soft blankets of snow and historic downtowns radiate warmth and charm. As the world outside is hushed by falling snowflakes, crackling fireplaces beckon visitors into snug cafes and historic inns. Quaint boutiques offer unique finds, and the allure of snow-covered streets invites leisurely strolls. Vermont’s winter wonderland becomes a playground for outdoors enthusiasts, from the exhilarating slopes of renowned ski resorts to the tranquil beauty of cross-country skiing in a serene forest. A Vermont winter invites you to wrap yourself in the embrace of small-town charm and find solace in the tranquility of the snow-covered landscapes.

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Whether you’re an adrenaline seeker or craving quiet, Vermont’s winter offers diverse terrain for outdoor enthusiasts. Embrace the thrill of skiing down powdery slopes or cross-country ski along groomed trails. Try snowshoeing through serene forests, where the crisp air is invigorating and the snow-laden trees create a picturesque winter backdrop.

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Whether you crave the thrill of glades and steeps, prefer the gentle slopes for learning, or enjoy the well-groomed trails, Vermont’s diverse terrain caters to every skier’s or snowboarder’s preferences.

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Winter in Vermont is a season of festive delights, with events that celebrate the snow-covered landscapes. Ski resorts come alive with the infectious beats of live music at events including Vermont’s gay ski weekend, where après-ski sessions blend seamlessly with the thrill of the slopes. Historic downtowns host winter carnivals and festivals, transforming snow-laden streets into lively spectacles. From ice sculptures that glisten in the winter sun to the laughter echoing from seasonal markets, Vermont’s winter events embrace the season even at its coldest.

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Q&A: These researchers examined 20 years of data on same-sex marriage. Here’s what they found

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Twenty years ago this month, Marcia Kadish and Tanya McCloskey exchanged wedding vows at Cambridge City Hall in Massachusetts and became the first same-sex couple to legally marry in the United States .

The couple had been together since 1986, but their decision to wed was radical for its time. In 2004, only 31% of Americans supported same-sex marriage, while 60% were opposed , according to a Pew Research Center poll.

Much of that opposition was fueled by fears that expanding the definition of marriage beyond the traditional union of a man and a women would undermine the institution and be destabilizing to families. Researchers at the Rand Corp. decided to find out if those predictions turned out to be true.

A team from the Santa Monica-based think tank spent a year poring over the data. The result is a 186-page report that should be reassuring to supporters of marriage equality.

“If there were negative consequences in the last 20 years of the decision to legalize marriage for same-sex couples, no one has yet been able to measure them,” said Benjamin Karney , an adjunct behavioral scientist at Rand.

Karney, who is also a social psychologist at UCLA, led the report with Melanie Zaber , a labor economist and economic demographer at Rand. They spoke with The Times about what they learned.

Does marriage make people better off?

Benjamin Karney: On average, yes. People who are married experience fewer health problems , they live years longer , they make more money , and they accumulate more wealth than people who marry and divorce or who don’t marry at all. People who are married also experience more stable and positive psychological health , and they have sex more frequently than people who are not married.

All those benefits accrue primarily to people who are in happy marriages. Unhappy marriage is very, very harmful. But most people who are married are happy — that’s why they stay married.

What prompted you to examine same-sex marriage now?

BK: At the time that these policies were changing, there were a lot of arguments on both sides about whether the consequences would be positive or negative. Twenty years is a long time, and during that time, a lot of research has been conducted. It seemed like a good time to ask the question: What did happen as a consequence of legalizing marriage for same-sex couples? So that’s one reason.

The second reason is that in the Dobbs decision that overturned Roe vs. Wade , Justice Clarence Thomas in his concurring opinion said explicitly that this Supreme Court should consider reviewing and potentially overturning other decisions , and he named the 2015 Obergefell vs. Hodges decision that legalized marriage for same-sex couples by name. Given that people may be wondering about the merits of that decision, it seemed like a good time to evaluate the consequences of that decision, and that’s what we’ve done.

What did you find?

BK: We found 96 studies across a range of disciplines. Some are in economics. Some are in psychology. Some are in medicine. Some are in public health.

Melanie Zaber: We wanted it to be research that actually measured something. There were a number of more qualitative or theoretical or legal arguments that we excluded.

BK: What I found most notable is that all of the studies drew the same conclusions: There was either no effect or beneficial effects on any outcome you could look at. That’s 20 years of research, 96 studies, and no harms.

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Does it seem plausible that the results could be so one-sided?

BK: I was not surprised. There’s a lot of good theory in family science and relationship science to argue that if you extend rights to a group that’s been stigmatized, that group should do better, and the majority group should not be affected. Indeed, that’s what we found.

MZ: I don’t find it particularly surprising. When we say there are no harms, that doesn’t mean everything’s coming up sunshine and roses — it means sunshine and roses or nothing. In this case, where the prediction was something negative, then nothing still feels like sunshine and roses.

What sorts of things did these studies measure?

BK: There were three general categories. The largest group was looking at outcomes for LGBT individuals and same-sex couples. The second bucket looked at the children of same-sex parents. And the third bucket was the effect on everybody else.

There was no evidence of harms anywhere.

That’s interesting because opponents of these policy changes very strongly — and very explicitly — predicted there would be harms. They predicted it in front of the Supreme Court , arguing that if we allow same-sex couples to marry, the consequences for the country will be negative and severe and unavoidable and irreversible.

Who benefits the most from legalizing same-sex marriage?

BK: Same-sex couples. Their relationships last longer when they are able to marry and cement their commitment. Their incomes go up. Their mental health improves.

That mental health improvement extends to LGBT individuals whether or not they are married. Even if you’re not married , if you’re a member of a sexual minority and live in a world that validates same-sex relationships, that relieves a stressor and has measurable benefits on physical and mental health.

What’s behind these improvements?

BK: The effects on health seem like they operate partly through employer-based health insurance being extended to spouses.

The mechanisms for mental health have been described by minority stress theory . Living in a society that is constantly sending you a message that you are less worthy of equal treatment is stressful, partly because it leads to discrimination. Being the target of discrimination is stressful , and that stress has real mental and physical consequences .

You found 96 studies about gay marriage. Why did you conduct your own research as well?

MZ: Some of those studies were conducted when only a few states had marriage for same-sex couples. A state like West Virginia or Wyoming might say, “Well that’s all well and good that you have evidence from Massachusetts or Vermont, but New England isn’t the center of the universe.”

By looking at a broader range of years, we’re better able to capture some of those states that did allow same-sex couples to marry but weren’t among the first to do so. We have reason to think those states may be very different environments. Our approach was to use each state as a quasi-experiment.

What did all that data tell you?

MZ: The headline from our new analysis is no negative impacts and some positive ones.

We see an increase in marriage, and that increase is driven not just by newly marrying same-sex couples, but also by an increase in marriage among different-sex couples. That was a bit surprising to us.

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What do you think was going on?

MZ: There are a few different mechanisms for this, none of which we can explicitly test.

One could be allyship . There are individuals who identify as cisgender straight individuals, but they want to show their allyship so they delay marriage until everyone’s able to marry.

There’s an increasing number of individuals who identify as bisexual in the United States. Even if they’re marrying a different-sex partner, they may be trying to have validation of their broader identity.

The argument we find most compelling is that having people loudly clamoring for all the great things that come along with marriage made people in the broader population say, “Oh hey, getting married means people can go visit me in the hospital, and that if I’m in an accident there’s no concern about who my property will go to, and we have more access to health insurance.” Talking about that may have made some people realize, “You know, marriage actually is pretty helpful.”

BK: If you hear about a restaurant that everyone’s trying to get into, you want to eat at that restaurant.

MZ: That is an excellent way of putting it!

Do you think this research will persuade those who were concerned that same-sex marriage would have terrible consequences?

MZ: That’s our goal — to put evidence out to the public so policymakers can make informed choices.

BK: I’d like to believe so. At the time those arguments were made, they were speculative. People were trying to predict the future. Now we don’t have to predict the future. Twenty years have passed and we have the data. We can document what has happened.

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King Charles' Cousin Lord Ivar Mountbatten Joins The Traitors : Meet the Gay Royal Family Member Turned Reality Star

Lord Ivar Mountbatten previously made headlines when he became the first extended member of the royal family to have a same-sex wedding

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Lord Ivar Mountbatten is going from an extended member of the royal family to a reality star as he joins The Traitors season 3 cast . 

On Wednesday, June 5, Peacock's Emmy-nominated series announced its star-studded lineup , which includes Lord Ivar plus 20 others including The Bachelorette star Wells Adams , Zac Efron’s little brother Dylan Efron and Selling Sunset’ s Chrishell Stause .

The series, led by host Alan Cumming , follows a group of contestants participating in a game similar to Mafia as they work together to eliminate other contestants in hopes of winning the grand prize. 

Though Ivar isn't as public-facing as his relative King Charles , he did previously make headlines when he became the first extended member of the royal family to have a same-sex wedding in 2018. 

From how he’s related to King Charles to which royal he’s the godfather of, here’s everything to know about Ivar’s royal family connections.

He’s the second cousin of King Charles

Born on March 1963, Ivar is the son of David Mountbatten, 3rd Marquess of Milford Haven, and Janet Mercedes Bryce. Through his father’s side, Queen Victoria was his great-great-great-grandmother. 

Also through his father, he is the second cousin of King Charles and the first cousin once removed of the monarch's late father, Prince Philip . 

He attended the same school as Prince Philip and King Charles 

Ivar attended Gordonstoun School in Scotland before he graduated from Middlebury College in Vermont with a BA degree. Prince Philip and King Charles both attended Gordonstoun during their youth. 

Prince Philip was a father figure for him

Following the death of his father in April 1970, Lord Ivar told The Telegraph that Prince Philip acted as a father figure for him and his brother George Mountbatten, 4th Marquess of Milford Haven.

“Prince Philip, then 49, and Uncle Dickie stepped up and supported my mother, who’d been left a widow aged just 31,” he said in an excerpt for the publication. “She was hugely grateful to the Duke for keeping an eye on her and for being a sort of father figure to us, her two boys.”  

He added that Prince Philip was a great listener and would often tell him stories about his father. “In later years, I would sit with him and ask endless questions about my father. It was wonderful to have someone who could tell me everything about him,” he explained. “Prince Philip was a wonderful listener; you could tell him anything as long as you were being honest and forthright. He was happy to listen to your thoughts. But if he had some advice he thought you ought to hear, he’d give it to you.”  

His great-uncle was Earl Mountbatten of Burma, Prince Philip's uncle assassinated by the IRA

Lord Ivar’s great-uncle was the Earl Mountbatten of Burma (born Prince Louis of Battenberg), who had a close relationship with his nephew, Prince Philip. When Philip's mother, Prince Alice of Battenberg, was diagnosed with schizophrenia and his father, Prince Andrew of Greece and Denmark, ditched his family to live in Monte Carlo after being exiled from Greece, the future husband of Queen Elizabeth went to live with the Mountbattens, with his uncle acting as a father figure.

Mountbatten was close to Elizabeth's dad, King George VI, and  engineered the first meeting between then-princess and Philip when the British royal family toured the Royal Naval College in 1939. Mountbatten continued to remain close to Philip and the royal family, particularly Charles, up until his tragic death in 1979 at the hands of IRA terrorists.

The Duke and Duchess of Edinburgh are godparents to his daughters 

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Lord Ivar appears to have a close relationship with Prince Edward and Sophie, the Duke and Duchess of Edinburgh. In fact, the royal couple are godparents to two of his children . 

Through his first marriage to Penelope Anne Vere Thompson, Ivar welcomed three children, daughters Ella Louise Georgina Mountbatten and Alexandra "Alix" Nada Victoria Mountbatten and Louise "Luli" Xenia Rose Mountbatten. Prince Edward is a godfather of Ella while Sophie is a godmother of Alexandra. 

He’s a godfather of Lady Louise Windsor

In addition to having Prince Edward and Sophie as godparents to his children, Ivar is also a godparent to one of theirs. He is one of the godfathers of their daughter, Lady Louise Mountbatten-Windsor, along with Lady Sarah Chatto, Lady Alexandra Etherington, Francesca Schwarzenbach and Rupert Elliott.

Ivar was even in attendance at Lady Louise’s christening at Windsor Castle in April 2004, where he posed alongside the newborn along with her parents and other godparents.

He was the first member of the royal family to have a same-sex wedding 

After 17 years of marriage, Lord Ivar amicably divorced wife Penelope Anne Vere Thompson in November 2011. In 2016, he came out as gay, revealing his relationship with James Coyle. Two years later, the couple tied the knot in September 2018, with Ivar's former wife walking him down the aisle. 

The wedding was a historic moment as it marked the royal family’s first same-sex marriage. In an essay for The Independent published in 2023, Lord Ivar reflected on the milestone as well as the media attention that followed his coming out. 

He noted that "having the world's press shine a huge spotlight” on him “overnight, proclaiming [him] 'The First Gay Royal' " was “pretty alarming.” 

"The reaction of my friends and family concerned me a lot, and I wondered if my world would suddenly collapse around me," he continued. 

However, he noted that his family’s reaction “was incredibly supportive, and it soon became clear that in the scheme of things, your sexuality is of no significance to others.”

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He’s not as involved with the royal family anymore 

Though Ivar grew up close with various royal family members, he told Tatler that he’s not as actively involved with the family nowadays. “The family has got very large,” he explained. “When we were younger, we went to royal events all the time. But now that everyone has had children, quite rightly everything has slimmed down.”

That being said, he noted that he will occasionally accompany members of the royal family overseas on business trips and maintains a close relationship with Prince Edward. “They're very support­ive and think James is brilliant," he said.

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